It’s a crooked line I follow, and a rocky road I ride

Bitter Pill – Billy Idol
And I’d forgotten how to fly
But I’ll remember before I die
It’s a crooked line I follow
And a rocky road I ride
It’s a bitter pill I swallow

So who here has walked a straight line? Life is full of challenges and ups and downs. If you’ve lived a life where everything has always gone smoothly for you, then you’ve been living on the sidelines, too afraid to take chances or…maybe you’re just too smart and learnt from other people’s mistakes. The rest of us experienced life by making mistakes.

There are many who had no control, growing up under terrible circumstances, and others that have suffered terribly or have seen their loved ones suffer. They either become bitter, become victims, blame the universe or; they feel the pain, deal with it the best they can and learn some important life lessons which makes them stronger. They do whatever they can to become better.

Those that remain bitter and blame their childhood or circumstances, spiral down a negative road, re-living their past over and over again, making the same mistakes instead of taking steps to learn ways to overcome and turn the pain to something that propels them forward to do something good, to be positive and happy.

You always have a choice of how you want to look at things and there are always lessons to learn. Once you’re ready to make the change, when you decide you no longer want to live a life blaming your circumstances, you’ll find that things start changing. By focusing on the present, on the things you have to be thankful for, you’ll begin to notice changes in your life.

Your thoughts determine your quality of life. Some wise person once said, nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that you give it. The meaning you assign to something determines how you feel and what you do throughout your life.

If you think it is time to let go and begin living your best life, find yourself a coach, an experienced therapist or a reputable Certified Consulting Hypnotist in your area and start your journey.

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“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison” – Nelson Mandela

“You’ve got three choices in life: give up, give in, or give it all you’ve got.” – Unknown

“I’ve been broken in bits and after a bit, I put myself back together… bit by bit.” – Unknown

Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us – Unknown

Positively Positive: How to shield yourself from negativity…whatever it takes

Whatever it takes – Imagine Dragons
Whatever it takes
Cause I love the adrenaline in my veins
I do whatever it takes
Cause I love how it feels when I break the chains
Whatever it takes
Yeah take me to the top, I’m ready for
Whatever it takes

Positive people bring sunshine into our lives. They light up the room and bring joy wherever they go. Everybody looks forward to connecting with them and engaging with them. They make you feel like you matter.

We also know people who always seem to have a negative response to everything. When you ask them how they are or if they had a good weekend or any other general question, the answer is always something negative.

They go on about how terrible everything is, or they blame the traffic, the weather, people and anything and everything they encountered along the way. Soon you find yourself sympathizing with them and agreeing with them and, before you know it you get sucked in to their energy and begin to feel miserable.

So, how do you protect yourself and shield yourself from the negativity?

There are a few things you can do. I find that if I think of a few things that I’m grateful for when I first wake up, I prepare myself and wire my brain to be positive for the rest of the day.

If you meditate, practice yoga, exercise or journal, those are great ways to begin your day. Remember to continue to focus on all the things you are grateful for as you go about your day.

It takes practice to train your brain and wire it to be more positive if you typically are anxious and worry about things in general. Once you begin focus on the positive and notice all the things you have to be grateful for, you’ll find that you begin to attract positive people and events into your life.

Whatever you look for you’ll find, so if you believe that you’re unlucky or everything seems to go wrong in your life, consider changing the way you look at things and you’ll find that when you change your perception, you change what you attract.

For those who like lists, here are some tips for attracting positivity into your life:

1. First thing in the morning, think of something that you’re grateful for, then another and another…
2. Take three deep breaths
3. Stop watching/listening to the news first thing in the morning
4. Drink a glass of water and imagine the liquid healing your internal organs as it goes down
5. When taking a shower, imagine all your worries being washed away
6. When walking out your front door, imagine a protective armour over your body, protecting you from any external harm or negativity
7. Before you go to sleep, think of at least one thing you’re proud of that you did that day or re-live a compliment that you received from someone
8. Make sure you get enough sleep every day, reduce stress by practicing mindfulness, move throughout the day, eat healthy most of the time and do something fun each day. Remember we all have the same 24 hours each day, the choice is up to you what you do with it
9. Pick up a stone and keep it close to you, whenever you touch it or notice it, think of something you are grateful for…the more grateful you are, the more things you’ll get to be grateful for!
10. There are all types of groups/meet-ups that you can find online. Find something that interests you and spend time with like-minded people and people with different perspectives

Change the way you interact with anyone that is wired to respond negatively. Instead of asking them how they are and then listening to their response about how terrible everything is, compliment them and help them focus on something positive.

I find that something as simple as telling them that I love the colour that they’re wearing or how nice it was to see their post on social media…kids, pets, events etc. makes a big difference in their response. It helps them focus on the positive and also protects me from the negative responses I would normally receive from them.

Life is too short to let others get you down. Stop waking up each morning wishing you were living a different life. Enjoy each moment and be grateful for what you have. If you have a roof over your head, food to eat and clothes to wear, you’re better off than a lot of people on this planet.

Take the first step to live your best life. Find yourself a life coach or a reputable Certified Consulting Hypnotist to begin your journey. Do whatever it takes to live life to the fullest.

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Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet.

Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet. – Bob Dylan

“Every person, all the events of your life, are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.” — Richard Bach

I love the analogy of the GPS system in planning for what you want in life.

When you decide on a destination, if you don’t set your GPS to where you want to go and if you never start the car, you’ll remain exactly where you are.

If you don’t know where you want to go, then how will you know when you get there?

The only way to get to where you want to go, is by setting your destination in your GPS and moving in that direction.

The same is true with knowing what you want in life. If you set a goal and take tiny steps to move toward the goal, you’ll eventually get there.

I remember when I was working on my degree in Business Management. I was working full time and going to school at night. It took me over 10 years and I eventually graduated. The feeling of accomplishing that dream was pure joy!

I remember conversations at that time with people when I first decided to go back to school, they said they wanted to do the same but they never got around to taking that first step to begin the journey.

If you set a goal and then take those small steps of registering for one course at a time and not get overwhelmed with all the courses that you need to take to finish your degree, you’ll eventually achieve your goal. This is true of any goal.

Focus on what you can do now, stop living in the past and worrying about the future. Set your GPS to where you want to go and start the car.

If you need help in getting past those mental blocks that are stopping you from achieving your goals or if you want to discover what you really want in your life, find yourself a good Life Coach and a reputable Consulting Hypnotist.  A good Hypnotist can help you bypass the unconscious limiting beliefs that were installed in your mind when you were little, which are holding you back from living your best life.

Alice in Wonderland:

Alice: “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
The Cheshire Cat: “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”
Alice: “I don’t much care where.”
The Cheshire Cat: “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.”

The only person you’re destined to become is the person you decide to be – Ralph Waldo Emerson

You are never too old to set a new goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis

It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela


Time takes it all

“Time takes it all, whether you want it to or not.”– Stephen King

If you look back at all the times in your life, all that you’ve been through…the good, the bad and the ugly… nothing stayed the same forever, everything changed. Nothing lasts forever.

There were many times when you wanted the moment to last forever but it came to an end. Things changed, people changed, circumstances changed. Nothing lasts forever.

Then there were times in your life when you thought, it couldn’t get worse or that you couldn’t take it anymore, where you wanted to end it all because the pain was too hard to bear. You look back now and realize you survived. It came to an end. Nothing lasts forever.

There are many things we cannot control, certain circumstances, how other people act or how and when our time is up. The only thing we can control is how we see things, our thoughts and what we choose to do.

The mind is so powerful, when you let go of negative emotions attached to traumatic or painful events in your life, you can move ahead and lead a happier life.

Find yourself a good hypnotherapist who can help you with letting go of negative emotions (ingrained deep in your subconscious/unconscious mind), so that you can live your best life. It’s never too late!

Why oh why do you beat yourself up

Hey, don’t write yourself off yet.
It’s only in your head you feel left out or looked down on.
Just do your best, do everything you can
And don’t you worry what the bitter hearts are gonna say.
Jimmy Eat World Lyrics – “The Middle”

When you do or say something that you wish you hadn’t, do you ever play it out over and over in your head?

How often do you call yourself names and relive what happened, play by play? How could I be such an idiot! I’m so stupid, I should have kept my mouth shut etc. etc.

You’re not alone, three friends in the last week, admitted to me that they beat themselves up every time they think they’ve made a mistake and, they relive the incident over and over again in their mind.

We’ve all done that to some extent and, until someone brings it to our attention, we continue to do so.

This gets you in a negative state and everything seems to go wrong around you. Your negative thoughts bring about other negative situations.

So, how can you change that? Here are some thoughts to consider the next time you begin to beat yourself up.

  1. Ask yourself, if a friend made the same mistake, what would I say to him/her?
  2. What’s the worst that could happen now that the mistake is made?
  3. Tell yourself, no one is perfect, not even the person you think is perfect!
  4. Everyone makes mistakes, how can you learn from it?
  5. Will this matter 5 years from now?
  6. How many people really care or are thinking about this mistake that you made? People have their own issues and are thinking about their own problems!
  7. Keep a journal and write down positive things that people have said about you and keep adding to it all the time.
  8. Write down positive things you did or said that made you happy.
  9. Every time you have a negative thought, feel it and then replace it with a positive thought.
  10. Start using positive words when you speak and write.
  11. Subscribe to and you’ll get a positive “Notes from the Universe” message – Mike Dooley (TUT – thoughts become things)
  12. Ask yourself Tony Robbin’s Jedi mind trick question – “What’s great about this situation you’re not seeing right now?”
  13. Remember, when you change your thoughts and beliefs, you change your life.

As Vishen Lakhiani says, question the “brules” (bullshit rules) that you were taught when you were growing up. You can change your views about anything, anytime!

Change the way you think and start your journey to becoming the real you, to live a happy life. You cannot change the past but you can focus on the present, to have a happier future.

“I just want you to know that you’re very special… and the only reason I’m telling you is that I don’t know if anyone else ever has.”
― Stephen Chbosky,  The Perks of Being a Wallflower

If you were born to be a beautiful lotus, don’t try to be a magnolia

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. When you are born a lotus flower, be a beautiful lotus flower, don’t try to be a magnolia flower” – Master Buddhist Thich Nhat Hanh

Another year coming up and another opportunity to get it right this time.

We’re always learning and growing…becoming the person we were meant to be whether we realize it or not.

The sooner you decide to be you, the happier you’ll be. Do what makes you happy, do things that come naturally to you, take it one step at a time if need be but begin now! That is your purpose in life!

When you accept yourself as you are and begin your journey to self-discovery, you’ll find that you begin meeting people that can help you in your journey and opportunities will come your way.

When you’re on the right path, things will fall in place and when the student is ready, the master will appear, is a saying that is true.

A few things you can do if you don’t know where to begin:

  1. Buy yourself a notebook or journal.
  2. Write down 3-5 things you are grateful for each day (the more grateful you are, the more things you’ll get to be grateful for).
  3. At the end of the day ask yourself what you love about yourself, something that you were proud that you did that day (this is a step to wiring your brain to love yourself).
  4. In your journal, write down your bucket list or goals, big and small. Make a list of 50 goals and keep adding to it and scratching out the ones when completed.
  5. Stop using negative words and phrases because your subconscious/unconscious mind is always listening and it takes it literally and thinks that’s what you want.
  6. Just as you’re drifting off to sleep, imagine you already have what you want.
  7. Be you, there is no one like you. Don’t change yourself to be someone you’re not.

Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is you-er than you Dr. Seuss

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Remember spring swaps snow for leaves

“But if your strife strikes at your sleep, remember spring swaps snow for leaves” — Mumford & Sons, “Winter Winds”

Some people are happy just the way they are and are not interested in changing anything about their life.. If however, you do want to change something in your life, if you’re not happy or, if you want to be happier, then you have to shift in some way.

Once that thought crosses your mind and you do nothing consciously about it, things will start showing up for you in your life to help you move toward that change. Your unconscious mind knows that you want more and it will automatically bring you experiences that will help you grow.

It may feel uncomfortable because although you know you could be happier and you know you should do something about it, you haven’t done anything about it, so it does it to you and for you.

If you accept that nothing stays the same forever and, change is the only constant, then it gets a little easier. Think of a time when you felt at your lowest, when you thought things couldn’t get any worse and when you believed there was no way out. It did end, didn’t it? You survived and things got better.

There will be times when you feel like you have no control over things and whatever you do to make it better, it just doesn’t work. When you let go of the things you can’t control and allow yourself to feel the feelings, when you accept you’ve given it your best shot and then you let go, you’ll begin to notice things beginning to shift for the better. Remind yourself that everything comes to an end, the good, the bad and the ugly.

For the things that you can control, instead of waiting for change to happen to you, embrace it and take steps, to plan for it…or the other option is to remember…”There is no problem so big that it cannot be run away from.”…Richard Bach

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Everything you’re running from is in your head

The things you worry about, the things you beat yourself up for, it’s all in your head.

Stop for a minute and ask yourself what you would say to a friend who was doing that. Would you tell her she was terrible, stupid and deserved to suffer? Or would you tell her to stop beating herself up, she was doing her best and things would get better?

What if you did just that for yourself. You’ve made mistakes, everyone has. You can’t change the past but you can learn from it. Tell yourself what you would a friend. Forgive yourself, you don’t need anyone else to do that. If you’re not happy with your life, change it.

Each new day is a chance to start over. It’s never too late to late to begin living your life the way you want to. All you need to do is decide to begin. You only have one life to live and each day that passes without changing, it’s one day less you have in your life to live your best life.

Start by changing the pictures in your head. As Marisa Peer always says, your mind only responds to two things, the pictures you paint in your head and the words that you speak. Try it, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Start by writing three things you’re grateful for each day. When you start focusing on the positive things, you’ll notice that you get more of the things you’re grateful for. Picture what your ideal life would look like, write it down as if you already have it. Cut out pictures, words and stick them where you can see it. Take a picture of your vision board and put it where you can see it throughout the day. You’ll be surprised how quickly things will begin to fall into place.

Another way you can let go of limiting beliefs is by going directly past the conscious mind and straight to the unconscious (subconscious) mind to make permanent changes without you getting in your own way. Hypnosis gets past that critical faculty, where you can make long lasting changes quickly. Try it, hypnosis is not mind control.

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The trouble is, you think you have time

The trouble is, you think you have time – fake Buddha quote

Do you ever think about how much time you have left? It’s not something most people want to think about.

Are you doing what what you want to do? Are you living your best life? Do you even know what you want? Are you happy? So many questions to ask yourself!

You could make a list of things you want to do and work toward those goals and/or you could accept your life as it is and be grateful for the life you have. That would be the easiest thing to do, changing your perception.

If however, you think you have a few good years left and you want to live your best life, you could start living the life that you really want to live, now.

If you don’t know how or where to start, you may want to start by making a list of your values and then from that, find things that you enjoy doing. Things that you’re naturally good at and doesn’t feel like work. Things you could spend hours doing.

For the longest time, I didn’t know what I really wanted but I’ve grown and learnt so much more about myself in the past few years. I have an amazing family, job, friends and I’m grateful for all that I have.

Funny thing is, when I stopped worrying about things and started writing down things I was grateful for, I began getting more of the things I was grateful for! I even discovered what I really enjoy doing!

I’ve always been fascinated by the power of the mind and in fields such as hypnosis and neuroscience. The more I learn about it, I realize how powerful it is in helping people in every area of their life, whether it’s relationships, health, career, money matters, anxiety, phobias, PTSD, chronic pain or any other issue.

Although I love my job as a Director of an HR Association, I also love helping people tap into their unconscious mind to discover their potential and get rid of negative thoughts, past issues, childhood traumas that may be holding them back from living their best life. In my opinion, hypnosis is the  shortest and fastest way to do this.

My hope is to some day help refugees, men, women, children or anyone who has suffered abuse, trauma, anxiety, fears, chronic pain, PTSD and more, to resolve their issues and begin living their best lives, one person at a time.

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Butterflies can’t see their wings. They can’t see how truly beautiful they are…

“Butterflies can’t see their wings. They can’t see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well.”
― Naya Rivera

This quote applies not only to physical beauty but to inner beauty as well. I believe we all have our own beautiful unique gifts to offer the world and sometimes we’re not aware of these gifts. People around us may see it and they may even tell us so, but we may not think of it as anything special because that is just who we are.

If you saw yourself through someone else’s eyes, you would realize how truly beautiful you really are. Once you become aware of your purpose, which is quite basically, what you are naturally good at, you will find that things simply fall into place. You begin to meet people, come across articles, blogs, guiding you to becoming your true (best) self. It is such a natural process and once you begin that journey, there’s nothing that can get in the way.

When you do find your true purpose, you’ll realize that it isn’t about you, it is about sharing your gift with the world in your own unique way. The saying, “The Purpose of Life Is to Discover Your Gift. The Meaning of Life Is to Give Your Gift Away,” is very true.

It could happen in a heartbeat or slowly over time but your gut will tell you that you’re on the right path. As you advance toward your goal, when it is your true purpose, everything will fall into place. There may be detours along the way, what seemed like your purpose at first may turn out to be something else as you continue on your journey.

It could be anything, like moving to a new place in a beach town and opening a little bookstore or cafe to give tourists and locals a place to relax. It could be a bed and breakfast or simply providing an opportunity for people to travel and volunteer their time doing something that is meaningful to them. It could be to teach others how to cook, invest or share what you’ve learnt, or help in many other ways.

Educating yourself and continuing to learn and grow in whatever interests you will eventually bring you to your true purpose. I believe we are all here to find our true purpose and make a difference in our own small way, one person at a time, to make this world a better place.

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