Some people say you are going the wrong way, when it’s simply a way of your own

Hey, to be yourself is all that you can do…
Someone finds salvation in everyone, another only pain
Someone tries to hide himself, down inside himself he prays
Someone swears his true love until the end of time, another runs away
Separate or united, healthy or insane…
To be yourself is all that you can do
Audioslave – Be Yourself

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could just be you? What if you stopped caring what people thought? What if you decided to do what you wanted to do, wear what you wanted to wear, eat what you wanted to eat and live the way you want to live? Wow, what freedom!

Life is too short to be living someone else’s life! I think it gets easier as you grow older. When you’re young, you worry about how stupid you might sound or look if you said something or did something. You worry about what people might think. You worry that they won’t love you if they knew the real you.

So much time is wasted trying to please people and not living our life on our own terms. When you look back, you’re going to regret the things you could have done when you were younger, the places you could have travelled to, the memories you could have created instead of living the “safe” life, doing what you think you should be doing.

Travel the world, meet new people, make new friends, talk to people! Say something nice, a little sentence to start a conversation and you could end up life-long friends! On our vacation to Portugal this year, we made friends with a Romanian couple while listening to Fado in a little joint in Bairro Alto, Lisbon.

We connected with a few Brazilians when we took Uber to various places. We heard their stories, how they landed up working in Portugal. They shared their stories and we felt like we’d known them forever!

It’s so easy to assume that all they might not want to chat, which could be true but you wouldn’t know if you didn’t try. Everyone has a story to tell! Take chances and be free and be happy! I love hearing people’s stories, how they became who they are, why they’re doing what they do and everything about them.

When you focus on another, you stop thinking about yourself. There comes a time when you realize that people don’t really care and they aren’t actually thinking about you, they’re too busy worrying about themselves! When we worry about what other people think, we’re actually being a little vain. We think it’s all about us and our feelings and our thoughts.

We assume people would think less of us if they knew the real us. How many times when I look back now, I wish I had trusted a friend, a family member that I could talk to when I was going through tough times. I wish I could have been brave enough to have been just ME, been honest and not worry about what they would think of me.

If you’re going through tough times, talk to a friend, open up and be brave enough to be you. Stop wasting your limited time on earth, worrying, hiding behind a façade. Be YOU or strive to become the best version of yourself!

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The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself — Friedrich Nietzsche

Be who you are and say what you want, for those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind – Dr. Seuss

You were born an original. Don’t die a copy – John Mason

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life – Steve Jobs

Some people say you are going the wrong way, when it’s simply a way of your own – Angelina Jolie

I awoke only to find that the rest of the world was still asleep

Fix You – Coldplay
When you try your best but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can’t sleep
Stuck in reverse…

When you feel like there’s so much you want to do and not enough time and money to do it all, or when you feel like you have no control over anything and life is just passing you by, or if you’re struggling financially, mentally, emotionally, physically…they are all plausible reasons to cause you stress and anxiety and a feeling of helplessness.

For most people it seems stress and anxiety goes hand in hand. The difference between the two is that, stress is a response to threat while anxiety is a reaction to the stress.

Some people use prescription drugs or alcohol, or not-so-legal drugs and other means to ease their pain and anxiety because they haven’t found constructive ways to deal with their emotions.

Doctors prescribe prescription drugs as a quick and easy fix to end the suffering instead of helping their patients find alternate ways to deal with the pain and anxiety.

Everyone experiences challenges and obstacles in their lives. The difference is how you view those challenges and how you handle them.

Some people are able to find ways to face obstacles in a positive manner by practicing gratitude, talking to a therapist, practicing yoga or mindfulness or exercising, or training in martial arts, meditating, listening to music, or finding ways to help others.

There are many alternatives for mind-body healing such as through NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) or through a hypnosis practitioner or Reiki master etc.

Find yourself a reputable NLP Practitioner or Hypnotist and let them help you begin living your life the way you were meant to live. Stop playing the victim and blaming the universe and take control of your life.

When I began my journey in search of becoming my best self (still a work-in-progress), I came across so many ways that I didn’t known existed yet, they were always there. When you are ready, the tools, opportunities and answers will appear.

Begin reading and researching and find what makes sense to you. You will notice that almost all of them suggest there is a very strong connection between the mind and the body. What you think and believe creates what you bring to life. Just think about that!

If you have problems that you find hard to resolve, it’s because your unconscious mind is running you. Find ways to change those unconscious negative patterns and run your life the way you want to, by controlling your mind.

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I awoke only to find that the rest of the world was still asleep ― Leonardo da Vinci

 The world is full of magic things patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper – William Butler Yeats

 Have you ever noticed when you have a problem, you are there – Dr. Hew Len

 The only person you’re destined to become is the person you decide to be – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them – Khalil Gibran

 Don’t worry about a thing, every little thing is gonna be alright – Bob Marley

 My heart is at ease, knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me – Al-Shafi’I, posted by a friend on Facebook


It’s a crooked line I follow, and a rocky road I ride

Bitter Pill – Billy Idol
And I’d forgotten how to fly
But I’ll remember before I die
It’s a crooked line I follow
And a rocky road I ride
It’s a bitter pill I swallow

So who here has walked a straight line? Life is full of challenges and ups and downs. If you’ve lived a life where everything has always gone smoothly for you, then you’ve been living on the sidelines, too afraid to take chances or…maybe you’re just too smart and learnt from other people’s mistakes. The rest of us experienced life by making mistakes.

There are many who had no control, growing up under terrible circumstances, and others that have suffered terribly or have seen their loved ones suffer. They either become bitter, become victims, blame the universe or; they feel the pain, deal with it the best they can and learn some important life lessons which makes them stronger. They do whatever they can to become better.

Those that remain bitter and blame their childhood or circumstances, spiral down a negative road, re-living their past over and over again, making the same mistakes instead of taking steps to learn ways to overcome and turn the pain to something that propels them forward to do something good, to be positive and happy.

You always have a choice of how you want to look at things and there are always lessons to learn. Once you’re ready to make the change, when you decide you no longer want to live a life blaming your circumstances, you’ll find that things start changing. By focusing on the present, on the things you have to be thankful for, you’ll begin to notice changes in your life.

Your thoughts determine your quality of life. Some wise person once said, nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that you give it. The meaning you assign to something determines how you feel and what you do throughout your life.

If you think it is time to let go and begin living your best life, find yourself a coach, an experienced therapist or a reputable Certified Consulting Hypnotist in your area and start your journey.

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“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison” – Nelson Mandela

“You’ve got three choices in life: give up, give in, or give it all you’ve got.” – Unknown

“I’ve been broken in bits and after a bit, I put myself back together… bit by bit.” – Unknown

Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us – Unknown

Positively Positive: How to shield yourself from negativity…whatever it takes

Whatever it takes – Imagine Dragons
Whatever it takes
Cause I love the adrenaline in my veins
I do whatever it takes
Cause I love how it feels when I break the chains
Whatever it takes
Yeah take me to the top, I’m ready for
Whatever it takes

Positive people bring sunshine into our lives. They light up the room and bring joy wherever they go. Everybody looks forward to connecting with them and engaging with them. They make you feel like you matter.

We also know people who always seem to have a negative response to everything. When you ask them how they are or if they had a good weekend or any other general question, the answer is always something negative.

They go on about how terrible everything is, or they blame the traffic, the weather, people and anything and everything they encountered along the way. Soon you find yourself sympathizing with them and agreeing with them and, before you know it you get sucked in to their energy and begin to feel miserable.

So, how do you protect yourself and shield yourself from the negativity?

There are a few things you can do. I find that if I think of a few things that I’m grateful for when I first wake up, I prepare myself and wire my brain to be positive for the rest of the day.

If you meditate, practice yoga, exercise or journal, those are great ways to begin your day. Remember to continue to focus on all the things you are grateful for as you go about your day.

It takes practice to train your brain and wire it to be more positive if you typically are anxious and worry about things in general. Once you begin focus on the positive and notice all the things you have to be grateful for, you’ll find that you begin to attract positive people and events into your life.

Whatever you look for you’ll find, so if you believe that you’re unlucky or everything seems to go wrong in your life, consider changing the way you look at things and you’ll find that when you change your perception, you change what you attract.

For those who like lists, here are some tips for attracting positivity into your life:

1. First thing in the morning, think of something that you’re grateful for, then another and another…
2. Take three deep breaths
3. Stop watching/listening to the news first thing in the morning
4. Drink a glass of water and imagine the liquid healing your internal organs as it goes down
5. When taking a shower, imagine all your worries being washed away
6. When walking out your front door, imagine a protective armour over your body, protecting you from any external harm or negativity
7. Before you go to sleep, think of at least one thing you’re proud of that you did that day or re-live a compliment that you received from someone
8. Make sure you get enough sleep every day, reduce stress by practicing mindfulness, move throughout the day, eat healthy most of the time and do something fun each day. Remember we all have the same 24 hours each day, the choice is up to you what you do with it
9. Pick up a stone and keep it close to you, whenever you touch it or notice it, think of something you are grateful for…the more grateful you are, the more things you’ll get to be grateful for!
10. There are all types of groups/meet-ups that you can find online. Find something that interests you and spend time with like-minded people and people with different perspectives

Change the way you interact with anyone that is wired to respond negatively. Instead of asking them how they are and then listening to their response about how terrible everything is, compliment them and help them focus on something positive.

I find that something as simple as telling them that I love the colour that they’re wearing or how nice it was to see their post on social media…kids, pets, events etc. makes a big difference in their response. It helps them focus on the positive and also protects me from the negative responses I would normally receive from them.

Life is too short to let others get you down. Stop waking up each morning wishing you were living a different life. Enjoy each moment and be grateful for what you have. If you have a roof over your head, food to eat and clothes to wear, you’re better off than a lot of people on this planet.

Take the first step to live your best life. Find yourself a life coach or a reputable Certified Consulting Hypnotist to begin your journey. Do whatever it takes to live life to the fullest.

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Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet.

Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet. – Bob Dylan

“Every person, all the events of your life, are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.” — Richard Bach

I love the analogy of the GPS system in planning for what you want in life.

When you decide on a destination, if you don’t set your GPS to where you want to go and if you never start the car, you’ll remain exactly where you are.

If you don’t know where you want to go, then how will you know when you get there?

The only way to get to where you want to go, is by setting your destination in your GPS and moving in that direction.

The same is true with knowing what you want in life. If you set a goal and take tiny steps to move toward the goal, you’ll eventually get there.

I remember when I was working on my degree in Business Management. I was working full time and going to school at night. It took me over 10 years and I eventually graduated. The feeling of accomplishing that dream was pure joy!

I remember conversations at that time with people when I first decided to go back to school, they said they wanted to do the same but they never got around to taking that first step to begin the journey.

If you set a goal and then take those small steps of registering for one course at a time and not get overwhelmed with all the courses that you need to take to finish your degree, you’ll eventually achieve your goal. This is true of any goal.

Focus on what you can do now, stop living in the past and worrying about the future. Set your GPS to where you want to go and start the car.

If you need help in getting past those mental blocks that are stopping you from achieving your goals or if you want to discover what you really want in your life, find yourself a good Life Coach and a reputable Consulting Hypnotist.  A good Hypnotist can help you bypass the unconscious limiting beliefs that were installed in your mind when you were little, which are holding you back from living your best life.

Alice in Wonderland:

Alice: “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
The Cheshire Cat: “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”
Alice: “I don’t much care where.”
The Cheshire Cat: “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.”

The only person you’re destined to become is the person you decide to be – Ralph Waldo Emerson

You are never too old to set a new goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis

It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela


Time takes it all

“Time takes it all, whether you want it to or not.”– Stephen King

If you look back at all the times in your life, all that you’ve been through…the good, the bad and the ugly… nothing stayed the same forever, everything changed. Nothing lasts forever.

There were many times when you wanted the moment to last forever but it came to an end. Things changed, people changed, circumstances changed. Nothing lasts forever.

Then there were times in your life when you thought, it couldn’t get worse or that you couldn’t take it anymore, where you wanted to end it all because the pain was too hard to bear. You look back now and realize you survived. It came to an end. Nothing lasts forever.

There are many things we cannot control, certain circumstances, how other people act or how and when our time is up. The only thing we can control is how we see things, our thoughts and what we choose to do.

The mind is so powerful, when you let go of negative emotions attached to traumatic or painful events in your life, you can move ahead and lead a happier life.

Find yourself a good hypnotherapist who can help you with letting go of negative emotions (ingrained deep in your subconscious/unconscious mind), so that you can live your best life. It’s never too late!

Why oh why do you beat yourself up

Hey, don’t write yourself off yet.
It’s only in your head you feel left out or looked down on.
Just do your best, do everything you can
And don’t you worry what the bitter hearts are gonna say.
Jimmy Eat World Lyrics – “The Middle”

When you do or say something that you wish you hadn’t, do you ever play it out over and over in your head?

How often do you call yourself names and relive what happened, play by play? How could I be such an idiot! I’m so stupid, I should have kept my mouth shut etc. etc.

You’re not alone, three friends in the last week, admitted to me that they beat themselves up every time they think they’ve made a mistake and, they relive the incident over and over again in their mind.

We’ve all done that to some extent and, until someone brings it to our attention, we continue to do so.

This gets you in a negative state and everything seems to go wrong around you. Your negative thoughts bring about other negative situations.

So, how can you change that? Here are some thoughts to consider the next time you begin to beat yourself up.

  1. Ask yourself, if a friend made the same mistake, what would I say to him/her?
  2. What’s the worst that could happen now that the mistake is made?
  3. Tell yourself, no one is perfect, not even the person you think is perfect!
  4. Everyone makes mistakes, how can you learn from it?
  5. Will this matter 5 years from now?
  6. How many people really care or are thinking about this mistake that you made? People have their own issues and are thinking about their own problems!
  7. Keep a journal and write down positive things that people have said about you and keep adding to it all the time.
  8. Write down positive things you did or said that made you happy.
  9. Every time you have a negative thought, feel it and then replace it with a positive thought.
  10. Start using positive words when you speak and write.
  11. Subscribe to and you’ll get a positive “Notes from the Universe” message – Mike Dooley (TUT – thoughts become things)
  12. Ask yourself Tony Robbin’s Jedi mind trick question – “What’s great about this situation you’re not seeing right now?”
  13. Remember, when you change your thoughts and beliefs, you change your life.

As Vishen Lakhiani says, question the “brules” (bullshit rules) that you were taught when you were growing up. You can change your views about anything, anytime!

Change the way you think and start your journey to becoming the real you, to live a happy life. You cannot change the past but you can focus on the present, to have a happier future.

“I just want you to know that you’re very special… and the only reason I’m telling you is that I don’t know if anyone else ever has.”
― Stephen Chbosky,  The Perks of Being a Wallflower

If you were born to be a beautiful lotus, don’t try to be a magnolia

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. When you are born a lotus flower, be a beautiful lotus flower, don’t try to be a magnolia flower” – Master Buddhist Thich Nhat Hanh

Another year coming up and another opportunity to get it right this time.

We’re always learning and growing…becoming the person we were meant to be whether we realize it or not.

The sooner you decide to be you, the happier you’ll be. Do what makes you happy, do things that come naturally to you, take it one step at a time if need be but begin now! That is your purpose in life!

When you accept yourself as you are and begin your journey to self-discovery, you’ll find that you begin meeting people that can help you in your journey and opportunities will come your way.

When you’re on the right path, things will fall in place and when the student is ready, the master will appear, is a saying that is true.

A few things you can do if you don’t know where to begin:

  1. Buy yourself a notebook or journal.
  2. Write down 3-5 things you are grateful for each day (the more grateful you are, the more things you’ll get to be grateful for).
  3. At the end of the day ask yourself what you love about yourself, something that you were proud that you did that day (this is a step to wiring your brain to love yourself).
  4. In your journal, write down your bucket list or goals, big and small. Make a list of 50 goals and keep adding to it and scratching out the ones when completed.
  5. Stop using negative words and phrases because your subconscious/unconscious mind is always listening and it takes it literally and thinks that’s what you want.
  6. Just as you’re drifting off to sleep, imagine you already have what you want.
  7. Be you, there is no one like you. Don’t change yourself to be someone you’re not.

Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is you-er than you Dr. Seuss

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Remember spring swaps snow for leaves

“But if your strife strikes at your sleep, remember spring swaps snow for leaves” — Mumford & Sons, “Winter Winds”

Some people are happy just the way they are and are not interested in changing anything about their life.. If however, you do want to change something in your life, if you’re not happy or, if you want to be happier, then you have to shift in some way.

Once that thought crosses your mind and you do nothing consciously about it, things will start showing up for you in your life to help you move toward that change. Your unconscious mind knows that you want more and it will automatically bring you experiences that will help you grow.

It may feel uncomfortable because although you know you could be happier and you know you should do something about it, you haven’t done anything about it, so it does it to you and for you.

If you accept that nothing stays the same forever and, change is the only constant, then it gets a little easier. Think of a time when you felt at your lowest, when you thought things couldn’t get any worse and when you believed there was no way out. It did end, didn’t it? You survived and things got better.

There will be times when you feel like you have no control over things and whatever you do to make it better, it just doesn’t work. When you let go of the things you can’t control and allow yourself to feel the feelings, when you accept you’ve given it your best shot and then you let go, you’ll begin to notice things beginning to shift for the better. Remind yourself that everything comes to an end, the good, the bad and the ugly.

For the things that you can control, instead of waiting for change to happen to you, embrace it and take steps, to plan for it…or the other option is to remember…”There is no problem so big that it cannot be run away from.”…Richard Bach

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Everything you’re running from is in your head

The things you worry about, the things you beat yourself up for, it’s all in your head.

Stop for a minute and ask yourself what you would say to a friend who was doing that. Would you tell her she was terrible, stupid and deserved to suffer? Or would you tell her to stop beating herself up, she was doing her best and things would get better?

What if you did just that for yourself. You’ve made mistakes, everyone has. You can’t change the past but you can learn from it. Tell yourself what you would a friend. Forgive yourself, you don’t need anyone else to do that. If you’re not happy with your life, change it.

Each new day is a chance to start over. It’s never too late to late to begin living your life the way you want to. All you need to do is decide to begin. You only have one life to live and each day that passes without changing, it’s one day less you have in your life to live your best life.

Start by changing the pictures in your head. As Marisa Peer always says, your mind only responds to two things, the pictures you paint in your head and the words that you speak. Try it, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Start by writing three things you’re grateful for each day. When you start focusing on the positive things, you’ll notice that you get more of the things you’re grateful for. Picture what your ideal life would look like, write it down as if you already have it. Cut out pictures, words and stick them where you can see it. Take a picture of your vision board and put it where you can see it throughout the day. You’ll be surprised how quickly things will begin to fall into place.

Another way you can let go of limiting beliefs is by going directly past the conscious mind and straight to the unconscious (subconscious) mind to make permanent changes without you getting in your own way. Hypnosis gets past that critical faculty, where you can make long lasting changes quickly. Try it, hypnosis is not mind control.

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