Is Reality Just Perception?

Each one of us lives in our own reality and who is to say which one of us is right?

Take for example, our Canadian Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau who believes in welcoming those that are fleeing persecution, terror & war while at the same time, in the United States, Donald Trump is closing his borders to those fleeing persecution, terror & war.

The refugee situation is the same, however, one believes in compassion and the other in instilling fear. There are thousands who support each of them. Depending on your own perception of reality, you agree with one or the other.

So what makes people believe one way or the other?

I believe, those that live in fear, believe in scarcity and usually tend to expect the worst.

It’s up to the compassionate ones, the grateful ones, the ones who believe we are all born equal, to do what they can in their own small way, whether it’s by protesting injustices around the world, sponsoring a refugee or giving money to a cause.

You can choose your own reality and begin to notice that if you choose to be fearful, you’ll draw more things to be fearful of into your life.

If you choose to be grateful, you’ll notice that you get more things to be grateful for…so my friends, change your perception and see your reality change.

Below are a few quotes that you may enjoy:

“Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” – Albert Einstein

“Humans see what they want to see.” ― Rick RiordanThe Lightning Thief

 “The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.”
― W.B. Yeats

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” ― Wayne W. Dyer

“The older you get, the more you understand how your conscience works. The biggest and only critic lives in your perception of people’s perception of you rather than people’s perception of you.” ― Criss JamiKillosophy

Seventeen – just a number?

For the longest time, I would avoid doing anything important on the 17th of a month. My youngest sister, Anita (Baby as we called her) died on the 17th when she was just 15 years old, my Dad too passed away on the 17th, so it probably isn’t hard to understand that I may have had some issues with the number 17.

When Louie and I were getting married, I insisted that we get married on the 16th (Friday) instead of the 17th because of my fear of something bad happening if we were married on the 17th. I avoided doing many things on the 17th and avoided the number 17 whenever I could. The number 17 was to me what the number 13 is to many people, unlucky.

Then suddenly one day, it may have been around the time my daughter, Bianca was born, I decided that the number 17 was going to be lucky for me. I didn’t want her to be influenced by superstitions which could potentially stop her from living her best life. Not only was 17 going to be lucky but anything that was generally thought to be unlucky, would be lucky for me and her. All those old superstitions that held me back at times, now worked in my favour!

By switching from unlucky to lucky, my life changed forever! Good things started to happen to me and when I added gratitude to this, my life became even better. I became more positive and more happier. I think I am now the luckiest person on earth and, as I learn and grow each day, I realize that perception really is everything. So if you think 17 is unlucky or lucky, it is.

Whatever your unlucky, you have the ability to change it to lucky, all you need to do is decide to change your perception of the thing. Reality really is just perception. Give it a try.

Anchors Aweigh

Anchoring can be used in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and Hypnosis to trigger a positive emotional state. If you establish a trigger successfully, you can reproduce that emotion later.

Have you ever wondered why certain smells bring you back to a time in your past or remind you of a person or an event? This can be either a positive memory or a negative one.

The easiest and quickest way to deliberately anchor positive emotional states is, in hypnosis. Relax, breathe deeply and recall an activity that you enjoy. Really get into that moment, feel the feelings of being in that activity, feel the joy. As you are experiencing that joyful feeling, anchor it by touching your thumb and ring finger together. Add to it other happy memories and continue to anchor the feelings.

You can keep anchoring each time you experience a happy feeling and you will notice that in challenging time, when you bring your thumb and ring finger together, you immediately get that positive feeling that you anchored earlier.

Give it a shot and see how it works for you.





Words Matter

Words do matter, people! If you have little kids, be very careful with the words you use.

What happens when you tell a child, don’t spill the milk, the child inadvertently spills the milk. A child’s critical faculty isn’t developed until after 6-8 years of age.

The unconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between “do and”don’t”, it hears spill the milk. If you want your children to grow up to be positive, happy and confident, instead of telling them what not to do, tell them what you want them to do. Be careful with the milk instead of don’t spill the milk.Keep using positive words to encourage positive behaviours.

The unconscious mind is absorbing millions and millions of things going on around us although we may be aware of only a few things consciously. When parent argue about money in front of kids, thinking that the children are young and will not understand, their young unconscious mind is actually absorbing all the information. This can seriously damage a child’s well-being and the child can grow up unable to handle their finances.

Imagine the impact television and video games are having on our children. By being aware of how the unconscious mind is being affected, adults can at least make some effort to choose what their children are watching.

Writing Right – Graphology

It was an eye opener taking a course in handwriting analysis and learning that it is not the hand that writes but the brain. Studying with Dr. Mike Mandel is always an amazing experience. According to him, the writing never lies!

I have been practicing my new skills and, people are surprised how accurate the analysis has been for them. I’ve made a few changes to my writing to add traits like creativity and willpower.

It is interesting to learn from a person’s writing whether they are optimistic or pessimistic, whether the person has a temper, is impulsive or in fact the opposite is true.

Graphology would sure come in handy when looking for a business partner or when selecting a babysitter. Something to consider the next time you want to bring in a new person into your life.

Graphotherapy is the ultimate self-therapy says Dr. Mike Mandel so I shall continue to improve my handwriting!

More than a stage show

This July, my husband, Louie and I went on our first cruise ever and, one of the many highlights for me on the cruise was the comedy show featuring the Mesmerizing Brenda Kaye.
It is a different experience when you know exactly what is going on. You can relax and observe and chuckle when the audience is mesmerized at what the hypnotist is able to make participants do. Although I was observing the show with experienced eyes, it still fascinated me at the things Brenda was able to make participants do. It is amazing how strong and effective hypnosis can be and, although many people only see it as a stage show, there is so much more to it.


For those who are ready and open to experiencing being hypnotized, there is so much that you can change in your life in a short period of time. The only things that holds people back are fear and doubt. Those of us who have experienced being hypnotized and have hypnotized subjects, know how effective it can be.


In my experience so far, every hypnotist, hypnotherapist that I have met or connected with through MMHA (Mike Mandel Hypnosis Academy), has been extremely generous in sharing their knowledge and providing feedback when requested. I am honoured to be part of this family that is trying to help people overcome problems/issues and help people live their best lives. Dr. Mike Mandel, Chris Thompson (his business partner) and the many other students that have trained with them in-person and online, are people that I can go to for advice.


Some day people will realize how powerful the mind is and how powerful Hypnosis and Mindscaping can be in changing lives. Till then, my fellow storm riders and I will continue to help as many people as we can.
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Dr. Mike Mandel describes MINDSCAPING as a powerful method to rapidly induce massive internal shifts in a person. It can be conducted content-free to ensure privacy or with full disclosure.  MINDSCAPING allows you to access your internal map to make profound changes by tapping into your unconscious mind. The shifts can be deep and long lasting. You will notice changes and shifts that will continue for days after the session. MINDSCAPING can be done in-person or via Skype.

MINDSCAPING can be used for:

  • Increasing motivation
  • Immune system support
  • Letting go of the past
  • Breaking free from depression
  • Moving from pessimism to optimism
  • Reducing negative emotions
  • Resolving conflict
  • Increasing creativity
  • Determining the “real” issues
  • Creating a better future
  • Becoming more confident
  • Releasing stress
  • Letting go of fears
  • And much more!

Dispelling Myths About Hypnosis

Myth #1: Intelligent people can’t be hypnotized. Only the mentally weak can be hypnotized.

Fact: In fact the exact reverse is probably, more true. The higher your intelligence and the stronger your self-control, the more easily you are hypnotized. That’s because entering a hypnotic trance is all about concentrating. Those who have a capacity for creativity and vivid imagination usually make the best subjects.

However finding it hard to enter a hypnotic state doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. People naturally vary in how susceptible they are to hypnosis. Studies have shown that around 30% of people are relatively resistant to being hypnotized. Although with effort, the state can usually be achieved eventually.

Myth #2: The Hypnotist will be able to control my mind.

Fact: No one can control your mind, unless you let them. Your Hypnotherapist will give you suggestions that you want to be given, based on the Pre-Hypnotic Interview. At no point during your session will you lose control of your mind. If you hear a suggestion that you don’t agree with, or don’t understand, your subconscious mind will automatically reject it.

Myth #3: I will be made to perform embarrassing acts, such as bark like a dog, or walk like a duck.

Fact: This assumption is based on Stage Hypnotism and Hollywood fiction. The truth is, these people volunteer to act on stage, and thy allow themselves to participate in silly suggestions. Hypnotherapy is a serious process of self-improvement, not entertainment.

Myth #4: When Hypnotized, I will lose all sense of my surroundings, and will have no memory of the session.

Fact: Hypnosis is not an unconscious state of sleep. In fact, most people report having a heightened sense of awareness, concentration and focus, and can even hear more acutely during a session.

Myth #5: Hypnosis comes from “Black Magic” or is “Supernatural”.

Fact: Hypnosis is a natural state that has been studied scientifically. Hypnotherapists are not Psychics with special powers. Hypnotherapy is based on many years of clinical research by famous Psychologists such as Dr. Sigmund Freud and Dr. Carl Jung, and more recently, by Dr. Milton Erikson and Dr. John Kappas.

Myth#6: If I become Hypnotized, I may not be able to snap out of it, or Hypnosis is dangerous, a person can get stuck in a trance forever.

Fact: No one has ever been stuck in a hypnotic trance. Hypnosis is very safe and is in fact, a state of hyper-awareness. Any time there is an emergency, a person would naturally be able to come out of the Hypnotic state by opening their eyes, and stretching or speaking. If the hypnotist fails to emerge someone from hypnosis, he/she will return to a fully alert state on their own. Depending on that person’s need for sleep, he/she will either drift on into a natural sleep or simply emerge to full consciousness spontaneously within minutes.

When in the state of hypnosis, our brainwaves vacillate through the Alpha to Theta ranges. Any time you choose to emerge from hypnosis, for any reason, you are able to simply open your eyes and become fully alert. If you were practicing self-hypnosis before going to bed and ended in the Delta state, then it would mean you’d simply fall asleep.

Myth #7: Some people can’t be hypnotized.

Fact: Although some researchers and clinicians claim that some people are not able to be hypnotized, everyone has the ability to be hypnotized because it’s a natural, normal state that each of us enter at least twice each day – upon awakening and falling asleep. We also enter a hypnotic state whenever we get totally engrossed in a movie or TV show. Whenever we are driving and daydreaming enough to miss a turn or highway exit we know to take, we probably were experiencing a light state of hypnosis.

People may have this misconception because of an unsuccessful experience they’ve had with a hypnotist.  People are responsive to different approaches, and if a particular approach has not been successful in the past, it’s a matter of finding the way that works best for them. Hypnotherapists/Hypnotists have several techniques that they can use, and are trained to find a method that will work best for you.

Myth #8: Hypnosis is a miracle cure.

Fact: While Hypnosis is a relatively quick method of making permanent improvements, there is no such thing as a one-time miracle cure. Every individual makes progress at his or her own rate.

Myth #9: Hypnosis is a great tool to get someone to confess.

Fact: Hypnotherapy sessions are kept private and cannot be used for court testimony. It is not an alternative to lie detector tests. Hypnosis cannot force anyone to tell the truth or to confess.

Myth #10: You can be hypnotized to do things against your will

Fact: The hypnosis practitioner is merely a guide or facilitator. He/she cannot make you do anything against your will. In fact, during a hypnotic session, you are completely aware of everything going on. In other words, if you do not like where the hypnotist is guiding you, you have the power to reject the suggestions.

Myth #11: Under hypnosis you will always tell the truth and could even reveal personal secrets

Fact: You can lie under hypnosis just as easily as in the waking state. In fact, as hypnosis gives you greater access to unconscious resources, you may even be able to tell more creative lies when in trance. Additionally, you are in complete control of what you chose to reveal or conceal.

Myth #12:  I won’t remember anything the hypnotist says.

Fact: Everyone experiences hypnosis differently, for some it’s a state in which you are focused on the hypnotists’ words and listening more carefully, for others it’s a little more like day dreaming and your attention may drift and wander from one thought to another, sometimes not paying any conscious attention to what the hypnotist is saying.  Either way is okay, and neither will be more or less effective than the other. It’s simply a matter of your own personal style.

Myth #13: Hypnosis is sleep

Fact: People look like they’re asleep when they’re hypnotized because their eyes are closed and they’re peaceful. But they’re not asleep. The brain waves of a person who is hypnotized are nothing like those of a person who is asleep. In fact the hypnotic trance is a heightened state of concentration. A high level of alpha waves on an EEG, show that a hypnotized person is awake, alert and very responsive.

Myth #14: Hypnosis is contrary to religious beliefs

Fact: Hypnosis can be used to ease or remove pain, overcome fears, phobias, addiction and other problems.  While a handful of religious sects have raised objections to hypnosis, today most religious groups accept the proper ethical use of hypnosis for helping people. Included are Roman Catholic, Orthodox, and most Protestant Christian Churches as well as Judaism, Hinduism, Buddhism and others.  Hypnosis is not associated with any of the world religions. A professional and ethical hypnotist respects the faith of clients and will not use it inappropriately to influence a person’s religious beliefs.

Myth #15: Hypnosis isn’t an effective modality.

Fact: A Comparison Study Shows: “Psychoanalysis: 38% recovery after 600 sessions.
Behavior Therapy: 72% recovery after 22 sessionsHypnotherapy: 93% recovery after 6 sessions” Source: American Health Magazine

What is Hypnosis?

Hypnosis is a state of inner absorption, concentration and focused attention. It is like using a magnifying glass to focus the rays of the sun and make them more powerful. Similarly, when our minds are concentrated and focused, we are able to use our minds more powerfully. Because hypnosis allows people to use more of their potential, learning self-hypnosis is the ultimate act of self-control – American Society of Clinical Hypnosis.