Blog by: Lata Advani Viseu

“Oh dancing with myself
Oh dancing with myself
Well there’s nothing to lose
And there’s nothing to prove
I’ll be dancing with myself”
Dancing With Myself – Billy Idol

Wherever you go, there you are. You can be in a crowded dance floor or in a crowded city, the location may change but the only thing that is the same is you in all these places.

Everybody sees things through their own perspective. Your childhood experiences, your environment, your relationships, all mould you into the person that you become.

Sometimes we play the victim of our circumstances and think that life is cruel or unfair. We wonder why we are unlucky or why negative things happen to us all the time and get stuck in that cycle expecting the worst and guess what, we get more of that.

I have learnt over the years that if I want to change anything, I need to change my thoughts about the situation. If I want positivity in my life, I need to be positive. I cannot control everything; all I can control are my thoughts, which then create the emotions and lead me to act in a certain way.

As time passes, we grow, and some of us learn that nothing is good or bad, it’s the perspective that we give it. We can be in the exact same situation but have totally different experiences.

We are all on our own journeys and sometimes I must remind myself not to judge, to be kind and to accept that we are all different and instead of absorbing any negative energy, to shine some light and love instead. This is not always easy but then, we are all works in progress. We try and do better when we know better.

“The secret to happiness is letting every situation be what it is instead of what you think it should be, and then making the most of it”. – Anonymous

“Sometimes happiness is a feeling. Sometimes it’s a decision”. – Anonymous

“We can’t control the world. We can only (barely) control our own reactions to it. Happiness is largely a choice, not a right or entitlement”. – David C. Hill