Blog by: Lata Advani Viseu

“Just as I thought it was goin’ alright
I found out I’m wrong, when I thought I was right
It’s always the same, it’s just a shame, that’s all
I could say day, and you’d say night
Tell me it’s black, when I know that it’s white
Always the same, it’s just a shame and that’s all”
That’s All – Genesis

It’s always the same, it’s a shame… when our egos get in the way. You think you are right and so do I.

Relationships are fragile. You could be friends with someone, and one day they do something or say something, and you cut them out of your life in an instant. All the good times and memories are washed away just so that you can be right.

You get on your high horse refusing to understand or see why they may have said or done what they did at that time. Most of us only see things from our own perspective, finding it almost impossible to understand the other person’s perspective.

It could be that they were wrong, but they were young and still learning, exploring, growing and may not even think the same way they did when they were younger.

Or they may be an introvert and if you are an extrovert expecting them to behave in a certain way it may seem like they did not care but really, they were just being their reserved self.

As years go by and you become a little wiser you realize the reasons were so trivial but our ego get in the way and we refuse to bridge the gap and instead keep riding the high horse.

I know for myself, when I look back, there are many times that I would have done things differently knowing what I know now. We are all works in progress and all trying to do our best. So, let’s forgive and forget the small things that won’t matter in the long run. Life is too short.

If we want to live a life that attracts more positive things, then we need to let go of that ego and send out positive vibes in everything and in every relationship that we engage in.

All you need is love, let all the rest rest in peace.

“When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I admire kind people.” — Abraham Joshua Heschel

“To err on the side of kindness is seldom an error.” — Liz Armbruster

“Kindness begins with the understanding that we all struggle.” — Charles Glassman

“To be kind is more important than to be right.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald

“Kindness is the light that dissolves all walls between souls, families, and nations.” — Paramahansa Yogananda