Looking for a place to hide my fear…

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Blog by: Lata Advani Viseu

“Ever since I was a kid in school
I messed around with all the rules
Apologized, then realized
I’m not different after all…
…I was only joking my dear
Looking for a way to hide my fear”
I was only Joking – Rod Stewart

Have you ever carried around guilt and shame for weeks and months and years only to realize that you wasted your life in fear, worrying that other people were judging you when they weren’t even thinking about you? They were playing their own guilt and shame tapes in their heads.

Look back at your life and think about all the missed opportunities which were spent worrying about something that was only in your head. People have their own worries and shame, so stop assuming that their world revolves around you.

When you were young and made mistakes, you weren’t the only one. Everyone has regrets or there are things they would have done differently if they knew then what they know now. You did what you did because perhaps you were trying to fit in, or were looking for love and acceptance, trying to please others and not thinking about consequences.

Maybe your parents were fighting their own demons and didn’t know how to show you love. Maybe they didn’t give you hugs and kisses or tell you they loved you because they never experienced it themselves and didn’t know how to demonstrate it to you. So you looked for love in all the wrong places.

As you grow older you realize that you cannot change your past but you can change your present so that your future is what you want it to be.

Here are some tips that I learnt, to let go of the past, the guilt the shame and regrets:

We all make mistakes: there is not a single person on this earth who hasn’t made a mistake or two. If you are human, you’ve made mistakes in your life. You are not the only one.

We learn from our mistakes: Sometimes we make the same mistake twice or maybe even a few more times before we learn from our mistakes. You will notice that the same lesson keeps appearing in your life until you’ve learnt the lesson.

What would you tell a friend who confides in you about their guilt or shame: I know I would tell them that they did what they did because they didn’t know any better then and that I understand and love them. If they truly care about you, they will not hold it against you or bring it up but love you even more because you trusted them.

Write it down: Write a letter to the person who you wronged or wronged you. If that’s not something you want to do, write it in your journal, ask for forgiveness and then let it go.

Stop judging yourself: when you think everyone is judging you or looking at you, it’s actually because you’re judging yourself. Accept yourself and your mistakes and strive to do better. You have the power to decide any moment to let go of the guilt or shame and forgive yourself.

See the positive in the negative: there’s always two ways of looking at things. It could be the lesson that you learnt from your mistake, teaching your kids so that they don’t make the same mistake, becoming a better person as you learn to love and forgive yourself.

Close your eyes: relax and go back to your childhood or that incident and tell your younger self that they no longer need to feel shame or guilt. You understand and know why they did what they did and you forgive them.

Another way to make peace with your guilt or shame is through a hypnosis session with a reputable hypnotist who can help you let go of the past so that you can live your best life.

If you have other tips, please share it in the comments section so that you can help others.

“The past has no power over the present moment.” ―Eckhart Tolle

“Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future.”—Oscar Wilde

“In the process of letting go you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” —Deepak Chopra

“To heal, we must first forgive… and sometimes the person we must forgive is ourselves.” – Mila Bron

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Leaves don’t drop they just let go

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“Cause leaves don’t drop they just let go
And make a space for seeds to grow
And every season brings a change
A tree is what a seed contains
To die and live is life’s refrain”
Leaves Don’t Drop (They Just Let Go) – Carrie Newcomer

This is the time of year to start thinking of new beginnings, a chance to wipe the slate clean.

As you get ready for the New Year, it’s a time to let go of things that are holding you back from living your best life and a time to start fresh.

What are you holding on to that you can let go of now? Are you ready to let go of fear? Fear of change, uncertainty, a job or career you’re stuck in, a relationship? Is there resentment, jealousy, hurt, that you are ready to let go of?

What kind beliefs are you ready to let go of? Are you ready to let go of thoughts and beliefs that were installed by parents, teachers, friends or siblings when you were little, things like, you’re not smart enough, good enough, lucky enough or that you’re dumb, stupid, ugly or that life is tough?

Make a list of all the things you’re ready to let go of and as you scratch each one, write down what you are ready to do, what changes you are ready to make in the New Year or even right now. What new beliefs are you going to install to replace those old limiting beliefs that are holding you back from living your best life? Life is too short to waste doing things that don’t bring you joy, peace of mind happiness. 

As you make a conscious effort to let go and begin writing down what you really want, all the changes you want to make, your unconscious/ subconscious mind will start creating new neural pathways to find resources to get you there.

As you focus on living a positive, happy life, you’ll begin to notice all the things you already have to be grateful for and you’ll attract even more things to be grateful for. Whatever you choose to focus on is what you will bring to your life.

“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” – J. K. Rowling

Remember it’s impossible to have a positive life with a negative mind. So every time you have a negative thought, acknowledge it and then replace it with a positive one. As you consciously try to do that, after a while you’ll automatically begin to think positive thoughts.

The past is gone, the future isn’t guaranteed, so all you have is now. By living in the present, being you, and letting go of any ego, jealousy, hatred, fear and everything else that you know is holding you back, you can begin the year with a clean slate. It’s never too late to start and you’ll never again be as young as you are now.

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“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” – Deepak Chopra

“You can only lose what you cling to.” – Buddha

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” – Ann Lander

“Your past does not equal your future.” – Anthony Robbins


I wish I knew you when I was young

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“You bury that seed
It’s everything beautiful
And that sound comes from the underground
It’s all inside you now
It’s everything beautiful
But what are you running from?”
I wish I knew you – The Revivalists

Don’t you sometimes wish you knew you when you were younger? Knew your younger self now, so you could tell them that everything’s going to turn out just the way it’s supposed to, in the end?

Every thought you had then, every action, experience and emotion you experienced, the meaning you gave it, has brought you to now, your present situation.

It is common and normal for people that have had a terrible childhood, been in bad relationships to believe that people are all bad and that you can’t trust anyone.

There are others who have been through the same things and they decide that the things they experienced are not going to control their life and they believe they deserve better and they do everything to change their situation and are an example to others on how to change their beliefs to live the life they want.

Every thought you have now, everything you do now, is also creating your future. Those emotions attached to all that you are experiencing now, is what you’re programming for your future.

When I finally realized that thoughts become things and that it was me who was responsible for how my life turned out, not anyone else, it was heartening and scary at the same time. There was no need to play the victim game or blame fate or the universe. It was up to me to make a conscious choice to be present in the moment, to turn negative thoughts into positive ones and to be grateful and happy.

Forgive yourself for mistakes you’ve made, keep the lessons, knowing that you can change your life anytime. All you need is to do is decide to change and with that you can change your beliefs in an instant so that you can begin to live life on your terms and create a future you want.

If you find it difficult to replace your negative thought patterns to positive ones through repetition, the fastest way to remove those negative patterns is to find yourself a reputable hypnotist to help uninstall all those negative patterns that were installed from the time you were born to age seven.

To learn all about how your mind works and how you can remove the programming of your subconscious mind, check out Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., Cellular Biologist (www.brucelipton.com).

You may also want to check out my older blogs at www.mindvasana.com to learn more on how the subconscious/unconscious mind is responsible for many of the choices you make.

The only person you’re destined to become is the person you decide to be – Ralph Waldo Emerson

The world is full of magic things patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper – Irish poet William Butler Yeats

I’m not strange, weird, off, nor crazy, my reality is just different from yours – The Cheshire Cat, Alice in Wonderland

But it starts in your feet, then it goes to your head

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‘If there’s no music up in heaven, then what’s it for?
When I hear the beat, my spirit’s on me like a live-wire
A thousand horses running wild in a city on fire
But it starts in your feet, then it goes to your head
If you can’t feel it, then the roots are dead
And if you’re the judge, then what is our crime?
Here comes the night time’
Arcade Fire

Everybody has something that makes them feel or come alive. For me, it’s music and dancing; travelling; trying new foods; spending time with positive, inspiring people; reading, learning, and a few other things.

Music and dancing are easy things that can lift my mood quickly. It helps that I’m married to someone who loves music and dancing too. We met 30 years ago in a restaurant/club called Pete & Marty’s in downtown Toronto and have been together ever since, going dancing whenever we can.

Music and dancing puts me in a trance. There are days when you feel like you have no control of things going on around you. You try to stay focused and positive and tell yourself nothing stays the same forever, these situations, people that feel negative at the moment, will all be history soon, in the grand scheme of life.

Those are the days that I need my headphones with some good loud music and trance myself out of all the negativity in my head. I have to remind myself that no one can “make” me feel one way or other.

If I stay in the present moment, not thinking of the past or the future, there’s no way I can focus on the feeling of fear, anger or hurt which either happened or I think may happen in the future. Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that I choose to give it.

Music helps a lot and dancing helps me change my emotion by changing my motion and by moving to the rhythm of the music. For some people jogging, working out and hiking are positive outlets that help them to stay positive and active.

For those who find themselves binge watching Netflix or binge eating, drinking, it’s okay to do that every now and then. If however, you feel guilty each time you do that, you may want to try putting on headphones and listening to music and dance or find another positive outlet.

If nothing seems to help then, find someone that you can talk to, write in a journal or get help. Life will pass you by so quickly and, 10 years from now you’ll look back and realize that you’ve wasted your life blaming your partner, your kids, your situation, your work, your life. Life owes you nothing, your only purpose in life is to be yourself and keep growing and learning to become your best self.

If not now then when?

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi

“We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.” – Khalil Gibran

“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.” – Maya Angelou

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I’m waking up, I feel it in my bones

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“I’m waking up, I feel it in my bones
Enough to make my systems blow”
 Imagine Dragons

There are days when you think, is this it? You wake up, you do what you do every single day and then you go to sleep. You wait for the weekend to do the things you like, sleep in, relax, spend time with family, friends, do a few fun things and before you know it, it’s back to the daily mundane routine again. Another year goes by.

Do you feel like you’re sleeping your life away or are you moving in the direction of your dreams? It’s never too late to start living the life you want. You don’t need to know what your purpose in life is. You don’t even have to aim for some big success, just dream and do things you enjoy and take small steps to get to where you want to go.

Listen to your heart and know that there’s still time to start a different career, go back to school, do what makes you happy. Find a life coach, read books, articles or talk to someone you admire and find out what they’ve done to get where they are.

If you’re still trying to “find” yourself or what career you’d like in the future, keep searching. You could make a list of your values, rank them from 1 to 5 and look for things that you enjoy doing that match your values. Start by doing what you love as a hobby or volunteer in that field and eventually you may just end up doing it as a career.

Until you decide to move in the direction of the future you want for yourself (you can always change the destination if you choose to), you’ll never get to your destination whether it’s your dream job, dream place, dream house, dream love, positive life experiences.

If you close your eyes and you see yourself in the future 10-15 years from now, what would you want to have achieved? How old will you be? See your future you. What would you like to hear your family and friends say about you if they were celebrating your accomplishments? Write it down, you’ll be surprised when you look back at how much you’ve accomplished.

Remember that your mind is very powerful. It only responds to two things, the pictures you paint in your head and the words that you speak. Be careful what you tell yourself, it is listening to you. All it takes is a second to make up your mind to change and decide how you want to live your life.

Don’t wait for life to pass you by, start by changing the way you think, being grateful for what you have and living your best life. As you drift off to sleep, when you’re in that hypnotic state, picture where you want to be, doing what you want to be doing and taking small steps to get there.
Hypnosis is great because it takes place on the unconscious level, bypassing the critical faculty.

The things that you have been trying to change on the conscious level, often only works for a short while. A qualified hypnotist can work with your unconscious (or subconscious) mind to make permanent positive changes. Find yourself a reputable hypnotist to help you break the chains that have been holding you back and live your best life.

To learn more, check out www.mindvasana.com

“I’m just trying to wake up – I’m so afraid of sleeping all my life and then dying – I want to wake up first.” – Philip Pullman, The Amber Spyglass

“What is a teacher? I’ll tell you: it isn’t someone who teaches something, but someone who inspires the student to give of her best in order to discover what she already knows.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Witch of Portobello

“It is never too late to be who you might have been” – George Eliot

“Every person, all the events of your life, are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.” – Richard Bach

“No matter who you are, no matter what you did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always change, become a better version of yourself” – Madonna

 

 

 

10 Things I wish I had known when I was younger

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Blog by: Lata Advani Viseu

Ya there’s one thing for sure – I’m sure gonna try
Don’t worry ’bout the future
Forget about the past
Gonna have a ball – ya we’re gonna have a blast
Gonna make it last
18 til I die – gonna be 18 til I die
Bryan Adams – 18 Till I Die

  1. Life is short. The moment you are born, the countdown begins. Live your life on your own terms. If you don’t, you’ll be blaming others for the rest of your life. Be happy, do what makes you happy and stop listening to the naysayers.

2. Nothing lasts forever. Not the good times, nor the bad times. Enjoy every moment because there will be times that you will not be able to control things but know, that bad times won’t last forever. Think back to a time that you were miserable, when you thought you wouldn’t be able to get through it…you survived right? You learnt important lessons and you grew and became stronger.

3. Things can change in an instant. One moment you’re living your life and the next you’re in an accident or you lose your job, or your relationship ends. Being resilient, getting help and keeping a positive attitude will help you get through the rough times.

4. Forgive and forget. When you forgive and don’t forget, it’s like not forgiving in the first place. I heard that quote at a training session and it really struck me. I had heard so many people say that they had forgiven someone for a wrongdoing but they would never forget. When I heard that quote, I realized that it was true, that if you forgive you have to try and forget the wrongdoing too.

5. You are responsible for your choices. For every choice you make, there is a consequence. In the past, it was very hard for me, making decisions. I could always see two sides to everything. When I started listening to my intuition and started going with the first choice, it became easier to make the right choice. Your unconscious mind knows exactly what you should do. Listen to it.

6. Be grateful. The more grateful you are, the more things you get to be grateful for. If that is the only thing you do (write down 3-5 things you’re grateful for every day), you’ll be surprised when you look back, how well things start going for you. This is one of the easiest things to do yet, people don’t have 5 minutes to do this every day.

7. You only have today. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come. Enjoy the moment, use your best china, wear your nice clothes and don’t wait for that special occasion. When we were leaving Brazil after living there for about a year, I met this woman who was buying my Indian clothes (which I never wore). I asked her what she was going to do with it and she told me that she and her husband would dress up and take out there best china and their best wine and spend the evening at home enjoying their time together.

8. You can ask for help. People are not mind readers. If you are feeling down or are in trouble, talk to someone. People want to help and if your friends and family knew what you were going through, they would be happy to help. When I was 18, I was in a terrible marriage, abused mentally and physically. I didn’t tell a soul, not even my family. I was ashamed, even tried to end my life. Now when I look back, all I had to do was call my family and they would have sent me the ticket to come back home.

9. You can change your mind and begin again anytime you choose. You don’t have to wait for the New Year, you don’t have to wait until your children grow up and you don’t have to wait till you’re retired. If you’re not happy, take small steps every day to change your situation and have a goal in mind.

10. Every day is a chance to learn. Whether it is personal life lessons or whether it is something you’re interested in learning, remember, there is an opportunity to learn every day. There are so many free websites, blogs where you can educate yourself on any topic. There can be no excuse for not pursuing your passion and being happy, learning and living your best life.

If you’re still lost and need help in living your best life, please check out www.mindvasana.com or find a reputable life coach or consulting hypnotist.

Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us – anonymous

Success without fulfilment is failure – Tony Robbins

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself – Rumi

If you change nothing, nothing will change – anonymous

Some people say you are going the wrong way, when it’s simply a way of your own

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Hey, to be yourself is all that you can do…
Someone finds salvation in everyone, another only pain
Someone tries to hide himself, down inside himself he prays
Someone swears his true love until the end of time, another runs away
Separate or united, healthy or insane…
To be yourself is all that you can do
Audioslave – Be Yourself

Wouldn’t it be nice if you could just be you? What if you stopped caring what people thought? What if you decided to do what you wanted to do, wear what you wanted to wear, eat what you wanted to eat and live the way you want to live? Wow, what freedom!

Life is too short to be living someone else’s life! I think it gets easier as you grow older. When you’re young, you worry about how stupid you might sound or look if you said something or did something. You worry about what people might think. You worry that they won’t love you if they knew the real you.

So much time is wasted trying to please people and not living our life on our own terms. When you look back, you’re going to regret the things you could have done when you were younger, the places you could have travelled to, the memories you could have created instead of living the “safe” life, doing what you think you should be doing.

Travel the world, meet new people, make new friends, talk to people! Say something nice, a little sentence to start a conversation and you could end up life-long friends! On our vacation to Portugal this year, we made friends with a Romanian couple while listening to Fado in a little joint in Bairro Alto, Lisbon.

We connected with a few Brazilians when we took Uber to various places. We heard their stories, how they landed up working in Portugal. They shared their stories and we felt like we’d known them forever!

It’s so easy to assume that all they might not want to chat, which could be true but you wouldn’t know if you didn’t try. Everyone has a story to tell! Take chances and be free and be happy! I love hearing people’s stories, how they became who they are, why they’re doing what they do and everything about them.

When you focus on another, you stop thinking about yourself. There comes a time when you realize that people don’t really care and they aren’t actually thinking about you, they’re too busy worrying about themselves! When we worry about what other people think, we’re actually being a little vain. We think it’s all about us and our feelings and our thoughts.

We assume people would think less of us if they knew the real us. How many times when I look back now, I wish I had trusted a friend, a family member that I could talk to when I was going through tough times. I wish I could have been brave enough to have been just ME, been honest and not worry about what they would think of me.

If you’re going through tough times, talk to a friend, open up and be brave enough to be you. Stop wasting your limited time on earth, worrying, hiding behind a façade. Be YOU or strive to become the best version of yourself!

If you need help being open, brave and need someone to talk to without any judgement and help you work through your demons, contact me at www.mindvasana.com or contact a local reputable hypnotist and work through any issues to become the best YOU!

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The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself — Friedrich Nietzsche

Be who you are and say what you want, for those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind – Dr. Seuss

You were born an original. Don’t die a copy – John Mason

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life – Steve Jobs

Some people say you are going the wrong way, when it’s simply a way of your own – Angelina Jolie

I awoke only to find that the rest of the world was still asleep

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Blog by: Lata Advani Viseu

Fix You – Coldplay
When you try your best but you don’t succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can’t sleep
Stuck in reverse…

When you feel like there’s so much you want to do and not enough time and money to do it all, or when you feel like you have no control over anything and life is just passing you by, or if you’re struggling financially, mentally, emotionally, physically…they are all plausible reasons to cause you stress and anxiety and a feeling of helplessness.

For most people it seems stress and anxiety goes hand in hand. The difference between the two is that, stress is a response to threat while anxiety is a reaction to the stress.

Some people use prescription drugs or alcohol, or not-so-legal drugs and other means to ease their pain and anxiety because they haven’t found constructive ways to deal with their emotions.

Doctors prescribe prescription drugs as a quick and easy fix to end the suffering instead of helping their patients find alternate ways to deal with the pain and anxiety.

Everyone experiences challenges and obstacles in their lives. The difference is how you view those challenges and how you handle them.

Some people are able to find ways to face obstacles in a positive manner by practicing gratitude, talking to a therapist, practicing yoga or mindfulness or exercising, or training in martial arts, meditating, listening to music, or finding ways to help others.

There are many alternatives for mind-body healing such as through NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) or through a hypnosis practitioner or Reiki master etc.

Find yourself a reputable NLP Practitioner or Hypnotist and let them help you begin living your life the way you were meant to live. Stop playing the victim and blaming the universe and take control of your life.

When I began my journey in search of becoming my best self (still a work-in-progress), I came across so many ways that I didn’t known existed yet, they were always there. When you are ready, the tools, opportunities and answers will appear.

Begin reading and researching and find what makes sense to you. You will notice that almost all of them suggest there is a very strong connection between the mind and the body. What you think and believe creates what you bring to life. Just think about that!

If you have problems that you find hard to resolve, it’s because your unconscious mind is running you. Find ways to change those unconscious negative patterns and run your life the way you want to, by controlling your mind.

To learn more, check out www.mindvasana.com

I awoke only to find that the rest of the world was still asleep ― Leonardo da Vinci

 The world is full of magic things patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper – William Butler Yeats

 Have you ever noticed when you have a problem, you are there – Dr. Hew Len

 The only person you’re destined to become is the person you decide to be – Ralph Waldo Emerson

 We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them – Khalil Gibran

 Don’t worry about a thing, every little thing is gonna be alright – Bob Marley

 My heart is at ease, knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me – Al-Shafi’I, posted by a friend on Facebook

 

It’s a crooked line I follow, and a rocky road I ride

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Bitter Pill – Billy Idol
And I’d forgotten how to fly
But I’ll remember before I die
It’s a crooked line I follow
And a rocky road I ride
It’s a bitter pill I swallow

So who here has walked a straight line? Life is full of challenges and ups and downs. If you’ve lived a life where everything has always gone smoothly for you, then you’ve been living on the sidelines, too afraid to take chances or…maybe you’re just too smart and learnt from other people’s mistakes. The rest of us experienced life by making mistakes.

There are many who had no control, growing up under terrible circumstances, and others that have suffered terribly or have seen their loved ones suffer. They either become bitter, become victims, blame the universe or; they feel the pain, deal with it the best they can and learn some important life lessons which makes them stronger. They do whatever they can to become better.

Those that remain bitter and blame their childhood or circumstances, spiral down a negative road, re-living their past over and over again, making the same mistakes instead of taking steps to learn ways to overcome and turn the pain to something that propels them forward to do something good, to be positive and happy.

You always have a choice of how you want to look at things and there are always lessons to learn. Once you’re ready to make the change, when you decide you no longer want to live a life blaming your circumstances, you’ll find that things start changing. By focusing on the present, on the things you have to be thankful for, you’ll begin to notice changes in your life.

Your thoughts determine your quality of life. Some wise person once said, nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that you give it. The meaning you assign to something determines how you feel and what you do throughout your life.

If you think it is time to let go and begin living your best life, find yourself a coach, an experienced therapist or a reputable Certified Consulting Hypnotist in your area and start your journey.

Please check out my other blogs at www.mindvasana.com

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison” – Nelson Mandela

“You’ve got three choices in life: give up, give in, or give it all you’ve got.” – Unknown

“I’ve been broken in bits and after a bit, I put myself back together… bit by bit.” – Unknown

Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Sometimes the things we can’t change end up changing us – Unknown

Positively Positive: How to shield yourself from negativity…whatever it takes

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Whatever it takes – Imagine Dragons
Whatever it takes
Cause I love the adrenaline in my veins
I do whatever it takes
Cause I love how it feels when I break the chains
Whatever it takes
Yeah take me to the top, I’m ready for
Whatever it takes

Positive people bring sunshine into our lives. They light up the room and bring joy wherever they go. Everybody looks forward to connecting with them and engaging with them. They make you feel like you matter.

We also know people who always seem to have a negative response to everything. When you ask them how they are or if they had a good weekend or any other general question, the answer is always something negative.

They go on about how terrible everything is, or they blame the traffic, the weather, people and anything and everything they encountered along the way. Soon you find yourself sympathizing with them and agreeing with them and, before you know it you get sucked in to their energy and begin to feel miserable.

So, how do you protect yourself and shield yourself from the negativity?

There are a few things you can do. I find that if I think of a few things that I’m grateful for when I first wake up, I prepare myself and wire my brain to be positive for the rest of the day.

If you meditate, practice yoga, exercise or journal, those are great ways to begin your day. Remember to continue to focus on all the things you are grateful for as you go about your day.

It takes practice to train your brain and wire it to be more positive if you typically are anxious and worry about things in general. Once you begin focus on the positive and notice all the things you have to be grateful for, you’ll find that you begin to attract positive people and events into your life.

Whatever you look for you’ll find, so if you believe that you’re unlucky or everything seems to go wrong in your life, consider changing the way you look at things and you’ll find that when you change your perception, you change what you attract.

For those who like lists, here are some tips for attracting positivity into your life:

1. First thing in the morning, think of something that you’re grateful for, then another and another…
2. Take three deep breaths
3. Stop watching/listening to the news first thing in the morning
4. Drink a glass of water and imagine the liquid healing your internal organs as it goes down
5. When taking a shower, imagine all your worries being washed away
6. When walking out your front door, imagine a protective armour over your body, protecting you from any external harm or negativity
7. Before you go to sleep, think of at least one thing you’re proud of that you did that day or re-live a compliment that you received from someone
8. Make sure you get enough sleep every day, reduce stress by practicing mindfulness, move throughout the day, eat healthy most of the time and do something fun each day. Remember we all have the same 24 hours each day, the choice is up to you what you do with it
9. Pick up a stone and keep it close to you, whenever you touch it or notice it, think of something you are grateful for…the more grateful you are, the more things you’ll get to be grateful for!
10. There are all types of groups/meet-ups that you can find online. Find something that interests you and spend time with like-minded people and people with different perspectives

Change the way you interact with anyone that is wired to respond negatively. Instead of asking them how they are and then listening to their response about how terrible everything is, compliment them and help them focus on something positive.

I find that something as simple as telling them that I love the colour that they’re wearing or how nice it was to see their post on social media…kids, pets, events etc. makes a big difference in their response. It helps them focus on the positive and also protects me from the negative responses I would normally receive from them.

Life is too short to let others get you down. Stop waking up each morning wishing you were living a different life. Enjoy each moment and be grateful for what you have. If you have a roof over your head, food to eat and clothes to wear, you’re better off than a lot of people on this planet.

Take the first step to live your best life. Find yourself a life coach or a reputable Certified Consulting Hypnotist to begin your journey. Do whatever it takes to live life to the fullest.

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Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet.

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Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet. – Bob Dylan

“Every person, all the events of your life, are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.” — Richard Bach

I love the analogy of the GPS system in planning for what you want in life.

When you decide on a destination, if you don’t set your GPS to where you want to go and if you never start the car, you’ll remain exactly where you are.

If you don’t know where you want to go, then how will you know when you get there?

The only way to get to where you want to go, is by setting your destination in your GPS and moving in that direction.

The same is true with knowing what you want in life. If you set a goal and take tiny steps to move toward the goal, you’ll eventually get there.

I remember when I was working on my degree in Business Management. I was working full time and going to school at night. It took me over 10 years and I eventually graduated. The feeling of accomplishing that dream was pure joy!

I remember conversations at that time with people when I first decided to go back to school, they said they wanted to do the same but they never got around to taking that first step to begin the journey.

If you set a goal and then take those small steps of registering for one course at a time and not get overwhelmed with all the courses that you need to take to finish your degree, you’ll eventually achieve your goal. This is true of any goal.

Focus on what you can do now, stop living in the past and worrying about the future. Set your GPS to where you want to go and start the car.

If you need help in getting past those mental blocks that are stopping you from achieving your goals or if you want to discover what you really want in your life, find yourself a good Life Coach and a reputable Consulting Hypnotist.  A good Hypnotist can help you bypass the unconscious limiting beliefs that were installed in your mind when you were little, which are holding you back from living your best life.

Alice in Wonderland:

Alice: “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
The Cheshire Cat: “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”
Alice: “I don’t much care where.”
The Cheshire Cat: “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.”

The only person you’re destined to become is the person you decide to be – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“You are never too old to set a new goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis

“It always seems impossible until it’s done.” – Nelson Mandela

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Time takes it all

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“Time takes it all, whether you want it to or not.”– Stephen King

If you look back at all the times in your life, all that you’ve been through…the good, the bad and the ugly… nothing stayed the same forever, everything changed. Nothing lasts forever.

There were many times when you wanted the moment to last forever but it came to an end. Things changed, people changed, circumstances changed. Nothing lasts forever.

Then there were times in your life when you thought, it couldn’t get worse or that you couldn’t take it anymore, where you wanted to end it all because the pain was too hard to bear. You look back now and realize you survived. It came to an end. Nothing lasts forever.

There are many things we cannot control, certain circumstances, how other people act or how and when our time is up. The only thing we can control is how we see things, our thoughts and what we choose to do.

The mind is so powerful, when you let go of negative emotions attached to traumatic or painful events in your life, you can move ahead and lead a happier life.

Find yourself a good hypnotherapist who can help you with letting go of negative emotions (ingrained deep in your subconscious/unconscious mind), so that you can live your best life. It’s never too late!

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Why oh why do you beat yourself up

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Hey, don’t write yourself off yet.
It’s only in your head you feel left out or looked down on.
Just do your best, do everything you can
And don’t you worry what the bitter hearts are gonna say.
Jimmy Eat World Lyrics – “The Middle”

When you do or say something that you wish you hadn’t, do you ever play it out over and over in your head?

How often do you call yourself names and relive what happened, play by play? How could I be such an idiot! I’m so stupid, I should have kept my mouth shut etc. etc.

You’re not alone, three friends in the last week, admitted to me that they beat themselves up every time they think they’ve made a mistake and, they relive the incident over and over again in their mind.

We’ve all done that to some extent and, until someone brings it to our attention, we continue to do so.

This gets you in a negative state and everything seems to go wrong around you. Your negative thoughts bring about other negative situations.

So, how can you change that? Here are some thoughts to consider the next time you begin to beat yourself up.

  1. Ask yourself, if a friend made the same mistake, what would I say to him/her?
  2. What’s the worst that could happen now that the mistake is made?
  3. Tell yourself, no one is perfect, not even the person you think is perfect!
  4. Everyone makes mistakes, how can you learn from it?
  5. Will this matter 5 years from now?
  6. How many people really care or are thinking about this mistake that you made? People have their own issues and are thinking about their own problems!
  7. Keep a journal and write down positive things that people have said about you and keep adding to it all the time.
  8. Write down positive things you did or said that made you happy.
  9. Every time you have a negative thought, feel it and then replace it with a positive thought.
  10. Start using positive words when you speak and write.
  11. Subscribe to tut.com and you’ll get a positive “Notes from the Universe” message – Mike Dooley (TUT – thoughts become things)
  12. Ask yourself Tony Robbin’s Jedi mind trick question – “What’s great about this situation you’re not seeing right now?”
  13. Remember, when you change your thoughts and beliefs, you change your life.

As Vishen Lakhiani says, question the “brules” (bullshit rules) that you were taught when you were growing up. You can change your views about anything, anytime!

Change the way you think and start your journey to becoming the real you, to live a happy life. You cannot change the past but you can focus on the present, to have a happier future.

“I just want you to know that you’re very special… and the only reason I’m telling you is that I don’t know if anyone else ever has.”
― Stephen Chbosky,  The Perks of Being a Wallflower

If you were born to be a beautiful lotus, don’t try to be a magnolia

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“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. When you are born a lotus flower, be a beautiful lotus flower, don’t try to be a magnolia flower” – Master Buddhist Thich Nhat Hanh

Blog by: Lata Advani Viseu

Another year coming up and another opportunity to get it right this time.

We’re always learning and growing…becoming the person we were meant to be whether we realize it or not.

The sooner you decide to be you, the happier you’ll be. Do what makes you happy, do things that come naturally to you, take it one step at a time if need be but begin now! That is your purpose in life!

When you accept yourself as you are and begin your journey to self-discovery, you’ll find that you begin meeting people that can help you in your journey and opportunities will come your way.

When you’re on the right path, things will fall in place and when the student is ready, the master will appear, is a saying that is true.

A few things you can do if you don’t know where to begin:

  1. Buy yourself a notebook or journal.
  2. Write down 3-5 things you are grateful for each day (the more grateful you are, the more things you’ll get to be grateful for).
  3. At the end of the day ask yourself what you love about yourself, something that you were proud that you did that day (this is a step to wiring your brain to love yourself).
  4. In your journal, write down your bucket list or goals, big and small. Make a list of 50 goals and keep adding to it and scratching out the ones when completed.
  5. Stop using negative words and phrases because your subconscious/unconscious mind is always listening and it takes it literally and thinks that’s what you want.
  6. Just as you’re drifting off to sleep, imagine you already have what you want.
  7. Be you, there is no one like you. Don’t change yourself to be someone you’re not.

Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is you-er than you Dr. Seuss

If you need help living your best life, check out my other blogs at www.mindvasana.com or contact me at mindvasana@gmail.com for a session.

Remember spring swaps snow for leaves

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Blog by: Lata Advani Viseu

“But if your strife strikes at your sleep, remember spring swaps snow for leaves” — Mumford & Sons, “Winter Winds”

Some people are happy just the way they are and are not interested in changing anything about their life.. If however, you do want to change something in your life, if you’re not happy or, if you want to be happier, then you have to shift in some way.

Once that thought crosses your mind and you do nothing consciously about it, things will start showing up for you in your life to help you move toward that change. Your unconscious mind knows that you want more and it will automatically bring you experiences that will help you grow.

It may feel uncomfortable because although you know you could be happier and you know you should do something about it, you haven’t done anything about it, so it does it to you and for you.

If you accept that nothing stays the same forever and, change is the only constant, then it gets a little easier. Think of a time when you felt at your lowest, when you thought things couldn’t get any worse and when you believed there was no way out. It did end, didn’t it? You survived and things got better.

There will be times when you feel like you have no control over things and whatever you do to make it better, it just doesn’t work. When you let go of the things you can’t control and allow yourself to feel the feelings, when you accept you’ve given it your best shot and then you let go, you’ll begin to notice things beginning to shift for the better. Remind yourself that everything comes to an end, the good, the bad and the ugly.

For the things that you can control, instead of waiting for change to happen to you, embrace it and take steps, to plan for it…or the other option is to remember…”There is no problem so big that it cannot be run away from.”…Richard Bach

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Everything you’re running from is in your head

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The things you worry about, the things you beat yourself up for, it’s all in your head.

Stop for a minute and ask yourself what you would say to a friend who was doing that. Would you tell her she was terrible, stupid and deserved to suffer? Or would you tell her to stop beating herself up, she was doing her best and things would get better?

What if you did just that for yourself. You’ve made mistakes, everyone has. You can’t change the past but you can learn from it. Tell yourself what you would a friend. Forgive yourself, you don’t need anyone else to do that. If you’re not happy with your life, change it.

Each new day is a chance to start over. It’s never too late to late to begin living your life the way you want to. All you need to do is decide to begin. You only have one life to live and each day that passes without changing, it’s one day less you have in your life to live your best life.

Start by changing the pictures in your head. As Marisa Peer always says, your mind only responds to two things, the pictures you paint in your head and the words that you speak. Try it, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Start by writing three things you’re grateful for each day. When you start focusing on the positive things, you’ll notice that you get more of the things you’re grateful for. Picture what your ideal life would look like, write it down as if you already have it. Cut out pictures, words and stick them where you can see it. Take a picture of your vision board and put it where you can see it throughout the day. You’ll be surprised how quickly things will begin to fall into place.

Another way you can let go of limiting beliefs is by going directly past the conscious mind and straight to the unconscious (subconscious) mind to make permanent changes without you getting in your own way. Hypnosis gets past that critical faculty, where you can make long lasting changes quickly. Try it, hypnosis is not mind control.

Check out my website www.mindvasana.com to read the myths about hypnosis and learn how effective hypnosis can be in helping you live your best life.

The trouble is, you think you have time

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Blog by: Lata Advani Viseu

The trouble is, you think you have time – fake Buddha quote

Do you ever think about how much time you have left? It’s not something most people want to think about.

Are you doing what what you want to do? Are you living your best life? Do you even know what you want? Are you happy? So many questions to ask yourself!

You could make a list of things you want to do and work toward those goals and/or you could accept your life as it is and be grateful for the life you have. That would be the easiest thing to do, changing your perception.

If however, you think you have a few good years left and you want to live your best life, you could start living the life that you really want to live, now.

If you don’t know how or where to start, you may want to start by making a list of your values and then from that, find things that you enjoy doing. Things that you’re naturally good at and doesn’t feel like work. Things you could spend hours doing.

For the longest time, I didn’t know what I really wanted but I’ve grown and learnt so much more about myself in the past few years. I have an amazing family, job, friends and I’m grateful for all that I have.

Funny thing is, when I stopped worrying about things and started writing down things I was grateful for, I began getting more of the things I was grateful for! I even discovered what I really enjoy doing!

I’ve always been fascinated by the power of the mind and in fields such as hypnosis and neuroscience. The more I learn about it, I realize how powerful it is in helping people in every area of their life, whether it’s relationships, health, career, money matters, anxiety, phobias, PTSD, chronic pain or any other issue.

Although I love my job as a Director of an HR Association, I also love helping people tap into their unconscious mind to discover their potential and get rid of negative thoughts, past issues, childhood traumas that may be holding them back from living their best life. In my opinion, hypnosis is the  shortest and fastest way to do this.

My hope is to some day help refugees, men, women, children or anyone who has suffered abuse, trauma, anxiety, fears, chronic pain, PTSD and more, to resolve their issues and begin living their best lives, one person at a time.

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